the 'meeting'

so i stayed on at work after joachim got home last night and he and i talked at length about gernot and his therapies, hitting and over all behavior.

he is really chill.

he mentioned something odd about his father. short backstory: his dad is 84 and just had a stroke and they found something odd in his CT something similar to how gernots brain is...so joachim said. he asked his dad while he was there last weekend about his childhood and his dad said people used to call him 'egghead'-

so now joachim seems to think that they did maybe TOO much for gernot when he was born...prenatal diagnosis....putting the shunt in and the ever constant therapies since he was able to go to therapy.

it reminded me of paul and sarah...about last summer...how as doctors they aren't the kind that just push a medicine or therapy on someone unless they needed it. it reminded me of taking cat for her neck maybe for a while but then that was it. she didn't need it anymore.

there's something to be said for letting a kid be a kid for a while. i suggested that they take gernot off all these fucking therapies for the summer. just to see.

yesterday i spoke with his speech therapist and she's been saying for weeks now that gernot has hit a plateau where he has reached all the goals she has had for him.

she wants to stop the therapy and made an appointment with his parents to discuss this.

back to dad: i do like the horse therapy for him as well as the lady that comes to the house but OT, PT and speech can go for at least the summer. i think gernot is bored with these things. also, they just keep doing the same things anyhow. what's the point? i can help him with coordination, stretching, exercise, speaking (in english anyhow) and so on.

i can't imagine him being in kindergarten from 8 to noon then trying to fit in all these appointments afterwards. this would be just too much.

so hopefully he spoke with tamara. she called to say that she would be late. so he told me to just leave. but i really enjoyed this conversation with him. i suggested the summer off. let the kids be kids this summer. wolfram is also getting the shaft by being dragged all the time to these appointments.

i also inquired about laundry. he said i could bring a load today and this makes me so so so very pleased. i have one pair of undies left and while i did a batch in the tub, it's just not the same as washer washed undies!

whoooo!

so yeah, dad is chill.

also too we discussed behavior and i said that gernot doesn't really act up too much with me....i also mentioned that he doesn't really do this with azmina, the play group lady either. this drove home the point that as kids, they know what is really going to annoy parents.....what will get them what they want from the parent and so on. i am not a parent. i'm just a caregiver, one who wants to do a good job, teaching kids and so forth.

so phew. i am sure we'll have to have a meet with tamara too but i really enjoyed this talk with him and i feel better about them. he didn't so much tell me i was doing a good job but him just listening to me made me feel appreciated.

happy mother fucking friday